https://youtu.be/YHaqMk-ZHyw Content note: this episode includes discussion of conversion therapy and religious trauma. Two hundred episodes. We still can't quite believe it either. To celebrate this milestone, and National Coming Out Day, Anne-Marie Zanzal gathers...
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Coming Out & Beyond Support For Women Questioning Their Sexuality Later in Life | Season 7 Episode 40 | Coach vs. Therapist? Knowing What You Need, Joined By Regular Guest Anna Empey
https://youtu.be/rNHdy3BcGzs What is the difference between a coach and a therapist, and how do you know which one you need? Anne-Marie Zanzal welcomes back her frequent guest and longtime business coach Anna Empey, owner of Business Inspired Solution, for an honest...
Why LGBTQ Affirming Therapy Matters
I was standing at a bar on Mackinac Island, waiting to order a drink for Tonda and me. The room was full of afternoon sun. It was a truly gorgeous day. A woman was sitting there with her husband, and we struck up the kind of easy conversation people have on vacation,...
Coming Out & Beyond Support For Women Questioning Their Sexuality Later in Life | Season 7 Episode 39 | Starting Over in the Sapphic World with Special Guests Barbara Rowlandson & Tonda McKay
https://youtu.be/riKHth4VqAg This week on Coming Out & Beyond it is the three of us again: Anne-Marie, dating and relationship guide Barb Rowlandson, and Anne-Marie's wife and resident realist, Tonda McKay. Twice a month we set the dating talk to the side and...
The Ground Will Not Hold Still
I have always been the healthy one, the steady one, the person who shows up for everyone else. This year my body stopped being reliable, and I had to learn to ask for help.
Coming Out & Beyond Support For Women Questioning Their Sexuality Later in Life | Season 7 Episode 38 | The Best Sex of Your Life Can Come After 50 with Special Guests Susan Bratton and Barbara Rowlandson
https://youtu.be/b3EimfvtTFc Note for Listeners: This episode contains explicit language and conversation about sex and sexual pleasure. Listener discretion is advised. What if the best sex of your life is still ahead of you? In this episode of Coming Out and...
Coming Out & Beyond Support For Women Questioning Their Sexuality Later in Life | Season 7 Episode 37 | Should You Run? Unfiltered Sapphic Dating Advice with Special Guests Barbara Rowlandson & Tonda McKay
https://youtu.be/jn2UPHEK5s0 This week on Coming Out and Beyond it is our monthly dating and relationship show, and Anne-Marie is joined by her co-coach Barbara Rowlandson, a psychotherapist and dating coach, and her wife Tonda McKay. Before the questions, the three...
Coming Out & Beyond Support For Women Questioning Their Sexuality Later in Life | Season 7 Episode 36 | The Signs We Only See Now: Were We Ever Really Straight? Joined By Regular Guest Anna Empey
https://youtu.be/mDfZsWvzoX4 This month's episode with Anna Empey is the one we have all earned after a tender chapter of heavier conversations. It is lighter, there is a lot of laughing, and it is about the signs. Not the ones we noticed at the time, but the ones we...
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This Authentic Life: The Coming Out Work We Cannot Do Alone
I want to talk to you today about the difference between knowing something and being held while you live it. So many of us are very good at knowing. We read the books. We listen to podcasts. We follow the people online who seem to have figured out the thing we are...
Coming Out & Beyond Support For Women Questioning Their Sexuality Later in Life | Season 7 Episode 35 | Straight Women Don’t Lie Awake Wondering if They’re Gay with Special Guests Barbara Rowlandson & Tonda McKay
https://youtu.be/RCTtHyKUixI This is the start of something new. The episodes you have told us you love most are the ones where the three of us sit down together, so we are making them a monthly gathering. Once a month, Tonda, Barbara, and I will open the letters and...
Coming Out & Beyond Support For Women Questioning Their Sexuality Later in Life | Season 7 Episode 34 | Coming Out at 39: When the Puzzle Pieces Finally Fit with Special Guest Marissa Mitchell
https://youtu.be/JPq3GGk6BhM Some mornings change everything. Marissa Mitchell was 39, a teacher and army veteran in southern Indiana, married to her junior high sweetheart and quietly certain that the distance she felt in her marriage was a problem she could fix if...
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