by Barb Rowlandson So, you've figured out you're not as straight as you previously thought you were. Congrats! Though it might seem a little bit scary, you’re about to embark on a remarkable journey. The ranks of late-in-life lesbians are ever-increasing. Though you...
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It’s Not a Lifestyle by Marissa Mitchell
By Marissa Mitchell The word lifestyle is often used to describe what it means to be LGBTQIA+ in this world. My friend Marissa Mitchell has written a great piece that captures many of my feelings. Especially the “record scratch” moment. I first...
Why Lesbians U-Haul?
We’ve all heard the joke. What does a lesbian bring with her on the second date? A U-Haul truck. The picture accompanying this article is a play on this joke. My wife and I were only moving some furniture and wanted to make our queer friends...
Embracing the Word Lesbian
When my therapist asked me how I identified (after coming out to her a second time) I tentatively said “bisexual” as previously I was only in relationships with men. Two weeks later I had changed my mind. No, I was not bisexual, I was only interested in women. As...
Can I Still be Lesbian if I Have Strong Spiritual or Religious Beliefs?
First off, yes. There are lots of queer people with strong religious beliefs and many lead very spiritual lives. Just as there is no set way to be LGBTQ+, there is no specific way to be religious. The way you build and engage in your future spiritual life is up to...
If I Married a Man and Have Children Can I Still be a Lesbian
It’s not a question a lot of women married to men think they’ll have to answer. Not many would expect to be surprised by new feelings for other women or to have to acknowledge an awakening recognition of something that might’ve been there all along. Chances are,...
Queer Girl in Straightville
I moved a couple of years ago after I came out. A confluence of reasons and events brought me to this decision. I still return to the town I lived as a straight married woman from time to time. I have been out for several years now and my hearing has changed....
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