Coming Out Support & Resources
Resources for Coming Out & Beyond
Through my own journey, I searched for as many resources as I could find that related to my own later in life coming out. Here are some of my favorites that I have found, that helped me navigate my journey. I hope you find these resources as helpful for you as they were for me.
If you can’t find what you are looking for please reach out so I can point you in the right direction.
Key Steps on the Journey
After helping thousands of women come out, and navigate their unique paths, I realized there are four key steps in the journey. You might be in a few places at once, and it’s ok to be right where you are. Below you will find a variety of resources that I hope will help you through this time of your life, and that you can find support, insights, clarity, and some wisdom too.
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“They’re closeted because of the systems around them that reward them for silence and also punish the truth.”
Questioning Your Sexuality: Am I Gay? Am I a Lesbian?
Am I a Lesbian?
The Closet: Psychological Issues of Being In & Coming Out
Staying in the Closet: 5 Ways You Damage Your Mental & Physical Health
The Gift of Living Gay: Karen McCrocklin at TEDxTrurleCreekWomen
Toilets, bowties, gender and me | Audrey Mason-Hyde | TEDxAdelaide
Your Trauma Didn’t Make You Gay
Listening to Shame by: Brene Brown
Coming Out or Newly Out
The Love Spectrum, Coming Out, and Sexual Fluidity with Anne-Marie Zanzal
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Coming Out of Your Closet | Ash Beckham | TEDxBoulder
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Closing Closets: The Upside of Disclosing Your Sexual Identity | Jeroen Mulder | TEDxTwenteU
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384: Questions You’re Afraid To Ask About Coming Out – Anne-Marie Zanzal
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387: How Far We’ve Come. Straight to Gay, & Coming Out – Anne-Marie Zanzal
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Sex Ed The Musical: Later in Life Lesbians
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Revel & Riot: Internalized Homophobia
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The Family Acceptance Project
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Navigating the Messy Middle
Queer Virtue: What LGBTQ People Know About Life and Love and How It Can Revitalize Christianity (Queer Action/ Queer Ideas)
Outside the Lines: How Embracing Queerness Will Transform Your Faith
Coming Out After I Had Kids Made Our Family Stronger
8 Things Later-in-Life Lesbians Want You To Know
How to Navigate a Later-Life Divorce With Grown Children
Coming Out to Your Kids in Midlife
The Power of Vulnerability | Brené Brown | TED
Krista Tippet “On Being” The Myth of Closure - Pauline Boss
Change, Identity Loss, and Grief
The Unexpected Grief of the LGBTQIA+ Coming Out Experience
The Sovereign Soul by Jacqueline Hopper
Annie Tulk - Works With Straight Spouses and Does Support Groups
Center for Loss & Life Transition
Unashamed: A Coming-Out Guide for LGBTQ Christians
Vicky Beeching Keynote at The Reformation Project in Kansas City
Some Talking Points on Christianity and Homosexuality
Rescuing Jesus: How People of Color, Women, and Queer Christians are Reclaiming Evangelicalism
God and the Gay Christian: The Biblical Case in Support of Same-Sex Relationships (Revised and Expanded)
Walking the Bridgeless Canyon: Repairing the Breach Between the Church and the LGBT Community
For The Bible Tells Me So
Miss Foundation | Support to Counseling Resources, Advocacy Information
Gifts of the Dark Wood by Eric Elnes
The Beyond: Living an Authentic Life
Two Bottles Deep
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How to Stay Emotionally Connected in a Long-Distance Relationship
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Dealing with the Impact of Sexual Abuse in a Relationship
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Authentic Peace: A Memoir for Midlife Women Questioning Everything
by Anne-Marie Zanzal
In this deeply honest coming out memoir, Anne-Marie Zanzal shares her story of unraveling the life she thought she was supposed to live and choosing the one that felt true. From religious conditioning and marriage to self-trust and late-in-life awakening, this book names the questions so many women carry quietly.
Authentic Peace is a steady companion for women navigating identity shifts, courage, and the sacred in-between.
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Anne-Marie’s experience about coming out later in life as a lesbian truly resonates, and made me feel less alone. Real, honest, and a true testament to following and listening to your inner self. Loved this book.
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How I wish this book had come out 5 years ago when I started this journey. Through Authentic Peace Anne-Marie uses her own experiences coming out later in life to normalize the experience for anyone making identity-changing decisions later in life. This book is honest and real while still having a great core of guiding and supportive information. A great read.
Not Sure Where to Start?
The get started page is designed to gently walk you through your options and help you find the kind of support that meets you exactly where you are.
Clarity doesn’t require rushing. It begins with one small step.
Remember, you don’t have to figure it out all alone, or all at once!
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