Lotus Community Coaching
Community & Support for People Coming Out Later in Life & Beyond
Lotus Community
About Lotus Coaching
Lotus Community Topics
Coaching Program
Community Leaders
Lotus Community Coaching
The Lotus Support Groups are run in collaboration with two amazing later-in-life peeps who bring so much experience and knowledge to Lotus Community Coaching.
Barbara Rowlandson is our relationship coach. She will help those navigating/recovering from a catalyst or first LGBTQIA+ relationship. She will also be helping with all the questions regarding dating and those dreaded apps! Barbara jokes there isn’t one she hasn’t been on.
What is most powerful is our groups. Meeting with other courageous women who are part of this experience is life altering and we have several opportunities to meet every week. You are not ALONE. You have coaches (who get it, and have been through it) and a community that understands and is waiting to help, guide, and love you through this experience.
What is Lotus Community Coaching All About?
- This is about confronting fears and answering questions.
- This is about having a space to share our stories and to hear others.
- This is about finding and creating community.
- This is about self-care and feeding our new identity.
- This is about learning about the LGBTQIA+ community.
- This is about identifying areas of growth in our lives.
- This is about the discussion of all the pertinent pieces of our journey, and our lives.
Lotus Community Coaching Topics
Curious & Questioning?
Are you curious about your sexuality? Do you have questions? Do you think you are the only one? The good news is you are not!
There is a whole community of people who have come out after marriage to a man, children, careers and full lives!
We work both one-on-one and in a group setting. It is amazing to connect with other people who understand!
Topics We Discuss Through the Curious & Questioning Program:
- What is my sexual orientation
- Internalized homophobia
- Why people wait so long to come out
- Listening to your internal voice
- Defining our conditioned self versus our authentic self
- Shame around wanting something different
- Guilt around creating change in your life
- Sharing your story with others
- How to deal with negativity
- Self-compassion
- Boundaries
- When your sexuality takes you by surprise
- and More
Divorce
Are you in the process of coming out and realize that you may want to divorce, or are divorcing, or just on the other side of a divorce.
Even when we know that divorce is the best option for our situation, it can be hard and we can grieve the many losses we experience as we divorce. Finding other people who are in the same process, sharing our stories, and talking about our kids can be life giving to us as we navigate this challenging time of our life.
We both give and receive support. We work both one-on-one and in a group setting. It is amazing to connect with other people who understand!
Topics that we discuss through the Coming Out and Divorce program:
- Fear of Divorce
- Grief of Divorce
- Guilt of Divorce
- Shame of Divorce
- Children
- Learning to Let Go
- Legal questions
- Rethinking our future
- Building Community
- Self Compassion
- Anxiety
- Regrets
- Building a new life
- and More
Coming Out
6 Month Coaching Program
This experience takes place over six transformational months. In this program, you’ll participate in:
- This is a SIX month program
- Includes one 45 minutes onboarding call with Anne-Marie
- Includes on 30 minutes onboarding call with Barbara Rowlandson to explore our online course.
- Three 45 minute individual sessions with either Anne-Marie Zanzal or Barbara Rowlandson
- THREE opportunities to meet each week on Zoom with you people in the mutual support group.
- Tuesday Mutual Support Group 12:00 PM – 1:00 PM CST
- Wednesday Mutual Support Group 7:30 – 8:30 PM CST
- Friday Mutual Support & Meditation 10:00 – 10:45 AM CST
- Resources, worksheets and meditations group by topic on a course website. Included with this is a get to know you sessions with Barbara and a tour of the course website.
- Access to one secret Facebook group for Lotus Group members only.
- 10% Discount on any programs or travel Anne-Marie Zanzal Coaching offers for LIFE. This includes Wing Women Weekend, Lavender Dating, and Purposeful Empowerment. If you chose to sign up for a second six months of Lotus Group Coaching, you may use this discount!
Meet Your Community Leaders
Anne-Marie Zanzal is an ordained minister, certified grief counselor, author, speaker, and coming out coach. Anne-Marie came out in 2016, at age 52 and afterbeing married to a man for nearly 3 decades. Anne-Marie started Lotus Community Coaching to help women/non-binary people through the grief and discomfort that goes with coming out later in life, leading them to a place where they can joyfully step into their Queer identity.
Today, Anne-Marie is a respected, go-to expert on the subject of coming out later in life, and is frequently consulted in radio, magazine, podcast, and e-publications. She lives in Tennessee with her wife, architectural photographer Tonda McKay.
Barbara began her work with Anne-Marie as a content marketer, developing course and online media content, and producing the Coming Out & Beyond: LGBTQIA+ Stories podcast. Under Anne-Marie’s supervision, Barbara has expanded her role and now works as a coach for other later-in-lifers in Anne-Marie’s program. Barbara came out in 2017 at age 45 as the result of having a catalyst relationship. She has since moved on from that relationship and has become experienced in the world of lesbian dating and finding community.
Barbara lives on a flower farm in the Kawartha Lakes region of Ontario, Canada, where she fosters her love of horticulture and shares many nature walks with her Golden Retrievers, Stella and Rosie.
What My Clients Have to Say About Coaching & Support Groups
I highly recommend Anne-Marie’s coaching and support groups. She not only helped me through my personal journey to accept myself, to find and live my authentic life, but she also helped me see larger issues. She helped me realize the difference between those in my life who might “accept” me and those who embraced me. It is a hard journey for anyone, but making it late in life has some added stress because you have to dismantle parts of your old life in the process. I do not know if I would have been able to make this journey without coaching from Anne-Marie and the community she provided me through the support group.
– SO
