Lotus Group Coaching
Support Groups for People Coming Out Later in Life & Beyond
About Lotus Coaching
Curious & Questioning
Coming Out & Divorce
The Other Side
Lotus Group Coaching
What is Lotus Group Coaching All About?
- This is about confronting fears and answering questions.
- This is about having a space to share our stories and to hear others.
- This is about finding and creating community.
- This is about self-care and feeding our new identity.
- This is about learning about the LGBTQIA+ community.
- This is about identifying areas of growth in our lives.
- This is about the discussion of all the pertinent pieces of our journey, and our lives.
Lotus Support Groups
Welcome!
I am so excited to offer my new Lotus Group Coaching Program! After five years of counseling/coaching people coming out later in life I know what works!
I will be hosting our mutual support groups and meditation, plus, welcoming you into the program with an initial call so I can determine the best way to help you.
My role is to be a guide, a companion, someone who understands.
My Signature Lotus Group Coaching Program is for any cisgender and trans woman who is in the process of questioning, coming out, or on the “other side” of this experience.
The Lotus Support Groups are run in collaboration with two amazing later-in-life peeps who bring so much experience and knowledge to Lotus Group Coaching.
Barb Rowlandson is our relationship coach. She will help those navigating/recovering from a catalyst or first LGBTQIA+ relationship. She will also be helping with all the questions regarding dating and those dreaded apps! Barb jokes there isn’t one she hasn’t been on.
Linda Moore is an energy healer/teacher and you will be able to work with Linda to remove blocked energy and become more connected to your authentic self. Trust us – it works!
What is most powerful is our groups. Meeting with other courageous women who are part of this experience is life altering and we have several opportunities to meet every week. You are not ALONE. You have coaches (who get it, and have been through it) and a community that understands and is waiting to help, guide, and love you through this experience.
Lotus Group Coaching Options
Curious & Questioning?
Are you curious about your sexuality? Do you have questions? Do you think you are the only one? The good news is you are not!
There is a whole community of people who have come out after marriage to a man, children, careers and full lives!
We work both one-on-one and in a group setting. It is amazing to connect with other people who understand!
You Dont Have to Go Through This Journey Alone
Topics We Discuss Through the Curious & Questioning Program:
- What is my sexual orientation
- Internalized homophobia
- Why people wait so long to come out
- Listening to your internal voice
- Defining our conditioned self versus our authentic self
- Shame around wanting something different
- Guilt around creating change in your life
- Sharing your story with others
- How to deal with negativity
- Self-compassion
- Boundaries
- When your sexuality takes you by surprise
- and More
Coming Out & Divorce
Are you in the process of coming out and realize that you may want to divorce, or are divorcing, or just on the other side of a divorce.
Even when we know that divorce is the best option for our situation, it can be hard and we can grieve the many losses we experience as we divorce. Finding other people who are in the same process, sharing our stories, and talking about our kids can be life giving to us as we navigate this challenging time of our life.
We both give and receive support. We work both one-on-one and in a group setting. It is amazing to connect with other people who understand!
Support & Connection With Other People Who Understand
Topics that we discuss through the Coming Out and Divorce program:
- Fear of Divorce
- Grief of Divorce
- Guilt of Divorce
- Shame of Divorce
- Children
- Learning to Let Go
- Legal questions
- Rethinking our future
- Building Community
- Self Compassion
- Anxiety
- Regrets
- Building a new life
- and More
For Support Beyond Coming Out to Create a Life You Love
The Other Side
This is a group for people who are on the “other side” of coming out later in life. They have started a new life, and would like to meet with other people who understand this experience.
We explore many topics together through The Other Side program including:
- Boundaries
- Dealing with Estrangement
- Regrets
- Loss
- Guilt
- Functioning
- Normalizing
- Self Compassion
And many other topics as well! What would you like to talk about? I am ALWAYS open to suggestions.
6 Month Coaching Program
This experience takes place over six transformational months. In this program, you’ll participate in:
- Two 1-hour mutual support groups on Zoom per week: Both a daytime and evening group. Come to one or BOTH! This is your new COMMUNITY! We get it!
- One meditation group per week.
- Six Individual 45 minutes Coaching Calls with Anne-Marie Zanzal and/or Lesbian big sister Barb Rowlandson. Barb is the one to talk to with regarding catalysts, first Queer relationships, and dating!
- Our online classroom is where we keep all of our resources for everything that we teach and explore.
Bonuses:
- One secret Facebook group to connect with other members between meetings
- First dibs on all our online offerings and retreats!
Book a Free Discovery Call with Any Of Us to Get Started
Anne-Marie Zanzal is an ordained minister, certified grief counselor, author, speaker, and coming out coach. Anne-Marie came out in 2016, at age 52 and afterbeing married to a man for nearly 3 decades. Anne-Marie started Lotus Group Coaching to help women/non-binary people through the grief and discomfort that goes with coming out later in life, leading them to a place where they can joyfully step into their Queer identity.
Today, Anne-Marie is a respected, go-to expert on the subject of coming out later in life, and is frequently consulted in radio, magazine, podcast, and e-publications. She lives in Tennessee with her wife, architectural photographer Tonda McKay.
Barbara Rowlandson is a mom, author, Humanist officiant, content marketing professional, plant enthusiast, and late in life lesbian.
Barb’s works with Anne-Marie on course and social media content, and produces the Coming Out & Beyond podcast. Barb came out in 2017 at age 45, as a result of having a catalyst relationship. Barb moved on from her catalyst, dating women for several years until she met her partner, Tammy, in 2021. Barb, Tammy and 3 of their combined 7 children live in Kawartha Lakes, Ontario, Canada.
What My Clients Have to Say About Coaching & Support Groups
I highly recommend Anne-Marie’s coaching and support groups. She not only helped me through my personal journey to accept myself, to find and live my authentic life, but she also helped me see larger issues. She helped me realize the difference between those in my life who might “accept” me and those who embraced me. It is a hard journey for anyone, but making it late in life has some added stress because you have to dismantle parts of your old life in the process. I do not know if I would have been able to make this journey without coaching from Anne-Marie and the community she provided me through the support group.
– SO
“All the wisdom is within us, so the ‘jewel,’ the ‘treasure,’ is in us—and we are the lotus flower.” – Anjie Cho
A Perfect Metaphor for Our Later in Life Journey
Why the Lotus?
For centuries, the lotus flower has been depicted in different religions and countries around the world. Miraculously growing in the murkiest of conditions, the lotus is a symbol that’s revered for its resilience, and of course, its beauty. Naturally occurring in many countries in Southeast Asia and Australia, they’re also found in ancient Egyptian hieroglyphics, as well as folklore in ancient Greece.
The lotus in Hinduism represents the womb of the universe from which all things are born, as well as overcoming adversity. Lotuses only grow in really swampy areas, so that symbolizes this idea that out of ugliness and destruction and unrest, we can all come together in this perfect moment. In Buddhism it represents connection and in that respect, it also has an indirect relation to the Buddhist idea of the universal soul.
Also known as the water or white lily in Christianity, the lotus flower is blessed with the ability to open in the morning, and close during the night. This says a lot about regeneration and rebirth. In Christianity, this can also be seen as the inner strength and the determination to come out of any difficulties.
In essence, across many civilizations, the lotus is regarded as a symbol of purity, enlightenment, self-regeneration, and rebirth. Its characteristics are a perfect analogy for the human condition: even when its roots are in the dirtiest waters, the Lotus produces the most beautiful flower.