The term "lavender marriage" may conjure images of vintage Hollywood or the restrictive social climates of the mid-20th century. Historically, it referred to a marriage of convenience between individuals, often where one or both partners identified as...
Have you ever found yourself asking that question of the person you're dating? Situationships can be very confusing and hard on the heart. One minute, you're enjoying time together, relaxed, and having fun. The next minute, it seems like she doesn't have the time of...
Eight Myths We Need to Let Go of About The Lesbian Community When you came out did you realize that you may have been ill-informed about the lesbian community? That there are a lot of myths created by a heteronormative society that are simply not true? So if you are...
One of the many things my clients ask me about, especially if they are coupled, is about the infamous lesbian "U-Haul" phenomenon. If you’re not familiar, the term refers to the stereotype that lesbians tend to move in together quickly after starting a romantic...
So you have figured out that you may not be as straight as you thought you were. Now what? Do you separate and divorce? Do you decide to live in a mixed-orientation marriage, when one partner is straight and the other is not? Or do you try to have your needs met and...
Outside the Heteronormative Model - How Lesbian Relationships Are Different by Barb Rowlandson. Many of us experience what could be described as a "second adolescence" when we come out in adulthood – primarily because we may not have fully experienced our first, at...
Embarking on the journey of a lesbian relationship is a beautiful exploration filled with shared experiences and unique challenges. My colleague Lynda Spann from the Lesbian Couples Institute and I had a great conversation the other day where we shared our insights...
Updated: January 2025 I will never forget my first forays into a lesbian relationship. I felt like a light switch was turned on and I now understood something that I heard others talk about, but I never really comprehended. I thought passion and romance were just a...
Catalyst relationships have a way of turning our lives upside down. In the LGBTQIA+ community a catalyst is a person who helps us realize that we might not be as straight as we thought we were. A catalyst can also be a life changing event, but let’s save that for...
https://youtu.be/3uuJ2__dL-Y Ready for some laughter, tears, and lots of wise, loving advice? Our final Share the Love February episode of the Coming Out & Beyond podcast has dropped, and it's a good 'un! Every Friday in the month of February in 2023, host...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3n3Ia__c2dQ We're sharing the love in February with podcast listeners! If you're someone in the late-in-life community who needs some loving encouragement about getting a divorce, this is a must-listen episode! Every Friday in the month...
https://youtu.be/4uYEiFcRZMw Dating apps can be confusing AND intimidating. My wife Tonda McKay, and our friend Barb Rowlandson discuss dating apps and provide some tips on putting your best foot forward.