The first time I went to Provincetown as a gay person was when I was with my now-wife Tonda McKay. I am from the Northeast and knew all about this charming little seaside town at the very tip of Cape Cod in Massachusetts. Provincetown—lovingly known as Ptown—is a must-visit gem that’s earned the title of the “gayest town in America.” But how did this charming seaside village become such a beloved LGBTQ+ haven? Let’s dive into the colorful and fun history of how Provincetown evolved into a symbol of diversity and acceptance.

A Bohemian Paradise

Ptown’s journey to becoming an LGBTQ+ paradise began in the late 19th century when artists and writers discovered this hidden treasure. They were drawn by its stunning natural beauty, affordable living, and vibrant, creative energy. This influx of free spirits created an open-minded environment where being different was celebrated. Many gay men and women found a safe haven among the artists who settled in Provincetown.

From Artist Colony to LGBTQ+ Haven

By the mid-20th century, Provincetown had blossomed into a lively cultural hub. It wasn’t just artists anymore; the town started attracting a diverse mix of free spirits and outsiders. The LGBTQ+ community, often facing discrimination elsewhere, found a warm and welcoming refuge in Ptown.

I found this myself the first time I went. There is something to be said about being the majority in a town. There is a easiness and acceptance within this community, I haven’t really found anywhere else. The town’s remote location and tight-knit community helps foster a strong sense of belonging. Away from the judgment of mainstream society, I realized that I could live openly and authentically. Just like the mid-century Queers folks. In the era of repression, I can only imagine what a breath of fresh air it was to them.

A New Era of Activism

The 1969 Stonewall Riots were a pivotal moment for LGBTQ+ rights across the United States. In Provincetown, the riots sparked a surge in activism. LGBTQ+ residents and visitors organized protests, parades, and cultural events, solidifying the town’s reputation as a safe and inclusive space.

The 1970s saw a boom in LGBTQ+ businesses and organizations in Provincetown. The town became a magnet for queer artists, performers, and entrepreneurs, adding even more color and vibrancy to its cultural scene.

Marriage Equality and the “Gayest Town” Title

In 2004, Massachusetts became the first state to legalize same-sex marriage. Provincetown, already a popular spot for LGBTQ+ weddings and honeymoons, saw a wave of couples eager to tie the knot. This historic moment cemented the town’s status as a gay mecca.

The 2010 U.S. Census revealed that Provincetown had the highest rate of same-sex couples per capita in the country, officially making it the “gayest town in America.”

Ptown Today: Fun, Fabulous, and Welcoming

Today, Provincetown is a beloved LGBTQ+ haven that’s bursting with energy and fun. Commercial Street, the town’s main street, is adorned with rainbow flags, gay-owned businesses, and art galleries showcasing queer artists. Annual events like Carnival, Bear Week, and Women’s Week draw visitors from all over the world to celebrate diversity and acceptance. Our upcoming Wing Women Weekend is smack dab in the middle of Women’s Week. We will not only be there together, but with thousands of other Queer women.

A Legacy of Love and Acceptance

Provincetown’s transformation from an artist colony to a gay mecca is a testament to the power of community and acceptance. It’s a place where people of all sexual orientations and gender identities can feel safe, loved, and celebrated. While the town has faced its share of challenges over the years, its commitment to inclusivity has never wavered.

I am so excited for Wing Women’s Weekend in Ptown October 16 – 20, 2024. It is so fun to be with your people, gain insight from our presenters, experience an exclusively Gay town, soak up Queer history, and be surrounded by the ocean. We still have a few more spots left so be sure to get yours if you plan on coming!

Once you come to PTown, you will have to go back!