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How I Learned Not to DIY My Life
Early on in my business, I built my own website. 🥴 I watched videos, read blogs, and then I spent a whole year trying to understand SEO — keywords, meta descriptions, and why Google didn’t love me yet. And then one day, I just threw up my hands and thought, “Okay. I...
What No One Tells Later In Life Sapphics
I want to say something out loud that a lot of women whisper to me in private sessions, DMs, or after a workshop when everyone else has signed off: you can like sex with your husband and still not be straight. — This part matters just as much — you can also be the...
On My (First) Adolescence—And Why Libido Shouldn’t Be Your Life
Today’s topic is what many of us call “second adolescence.” When I use that phrase, I’m not speaking in theory. I’m speaking from the messy, funny, sometimes cringey chapter where I made rash decisions and let my libido take the wheel more than once. Here’s the truth...
What No One Tells You About Divorce (But We Will) – 8 Pieces of Crucial Information You Need to Know
By: Anne-Marie Zanzal and Barbara Rowlandson Real Talk from Two Women Who’ve Been There When I was getting divorced, I had high hopes for a peaceful, mature separation. We hired a mediator.I was polite.I was reasonable.I brought snacks. I truly believed we could do...
Three Questions to Ask Yourself When Coming Out Later in Life
Coming out later in life can feel like stepping into the unknown. It’s normal to have doubts, fears, and a whirlwind of emotions. We have built comfort zones of safety and whenever we try to step out of that place, we are often met with fear, indecision, and doubt....
My Journey with Anne-Marie Zanzal Coaching: From Grief to Growth, and a New Beginning with Authentically Us
When I founded Anne-Marie Zanzal Coaching, I had one mission: to bring people together. I was newly out, about two years into my journey. I saw so many of my new friends grieving so much loss. I wanted to do something to help. My career as a hospice chaplain and grief...
Coming Out & Beyond Podcast
Coming Out & Beyond Support For Women Questioning Their Sexuality Later in Life | Season 7 Episode 39 | Starting Over in the Sapphic World with Special Guests Barbara Rowlandson & Tonda McKay
https://youtu.be/riKHth4VqAg This week on Coming Out & Beyond it is the three of us again: Anne-Marie, dating and relationship guide Barb Rowlandson, and Anne-Marie's wife and resident realist, Tonda McKay. Twice a month we set the dating talk to the side and...
Coming Out & Beyond Support For Women Questioning Their Sexuality Later in Life | Season 7 Episode 38 | The Best Sex of Your Life Can Come After 50 with Special Guests Susan Bratton and Barbara Rowlandson
https://youtu.be/b3EimfvtTFc Note for Listeners: This episode contains explicit language and conversation about sex and sexual pleasure. Listener discretion is advised. What if the best sex of your life is still ahead of you? In this episode of Coming Out and...
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Tips for Having a Healthy First Lesbian Relationship
When we have our first lesbian relationship or not, navigating a queer relationship is very similar to any relationship. We can’t expect it to be always magical because we have partnered with the same sex. It can feel that way, especially in the beginning, but it...
What Does it Mean to Change Your Life Midlife?
We all expect to have a lot of changes in our lives when we identify as teenagers and young adults. For some reason we expect the rest of our lives to have much more stability, but in actuality the old saying “change is the only constant in life” is true. ...
Are you Ever Done Coming Out?
Coming out is such a big deal for most of us that once we decide we want to live authentically and open that part of ourselves to others, we look most forward to having it over and done with so we can move on with our lives and beyond the stress of sharing something...
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The Emotional Pain of Getting Divorced
Divorce is rarely if ever, an easy experience, or conversation. Just mentioning it can bring up a lot of discomfort, pain, memories, and opinions from those around us or even in ourselves. So it’s not surprising that when a divorce may be on the horizon or is our...
Coming Out
Living Out Loud: A Journey Through Decades of Love, Struggle, and Community
In 1982, I came out as gay, stepping into a world that felt as if it were designed to silence and erase people like me. It was the era of the Reagan Administration—a time when thousands of gay men were dying of AIDS, and the government’s inaction screamed louder than...
Lavender Marriages: A Reflection on Identity, Companionship, and the Evolving Concept of Partnership
The term "lavender marriage" may conjure images of vintage Hollywood or the restrictive social climates of the mid-20th century. Historically, it referred to a marriage of convenience between individuals, often where one or both partners identified as...
What is the Lotus Community Coaching? Why Mutual Support Groups are so Important When You are Exploring Sexuality, Coming Out, and Navigating Divorce.
I am a deeply spiritual person and my own coming out process is akin to a spiritual awakening. When I began my group coaching program in year three of Anne-Marie Zanzal Coaching I know I would call it Lotus Community Coaching. The lotus flower is incredibly...
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