Coming out and divorce can be two of the most challenging experiences a person can go through. They often involve significant life changes, uncertainty, and emotional upheaval. I get it! My messy middle of coming out later in life, navigating my first Queer...
So you have figured out that you may not be as straight as you thought you were. Now what? Do you separate and divorce? Do you decide to live in a mixed-orientation marriage, when one partner is straight and the other is not? Or do you try to have your needs met and...
by Barb Rowlandson So, you've figured out you're not as straight as you previously thought you were. Congrats! Though it might seem a little bit scary, you’re about to embark on a remarkable journey. The ranks of late-in-life lesbians are ever-increasing. Though you...
By Marissa Mitchell The word lifestyle is often used to describe what it means to be LGBTQIA+ in this world. My friend Marissa Mitchell has written a great piece that captures many of my feelings. Especially the “record scratch” moment. I first...
https://youtu.be/psQN11tpUz0 The Global Center for Religious Research (GCRR) hosted the 2nd Annual International econference on Religious Trauma, which gathered together specialists, psychiatrists, and researchers from all over the world to discuss the causes of...
Everything seems overwhelming when we are first coming out. We are discovering so much about ourselves and how we fit into the world. At times it’s a very lonely journey. We don’t know if people will understand or if they will think we’ve made it up or are going...
By Tonda Mckay I have been out forever and five years ago I began dating a newly out woman. We were both in our early fifties. We all know there are a million ways to come out and all ages at which to take that first step. I tried one straight relationship...
When we have our first lesbian relationship or not, navigating a queer relationship is very similar to any relationship. We can’t expect it to be always magical because we have partnered with the same sex. It can feel that way, especially in the beginning, but it...
Setting healthy boundaries and expectations is difficult for most people. Especially for those of us coming out later in life, it can be tricky to learn and more difficult to maintain. Many of us grew up in chaotic homes where we weren’t taught clear boundaries and...
Divorce is often an off limit topic, yet it’s also very common, so let’s get real and actually talk about it. When we do talk about it, it’s often vague or unemotional, not wanting to burden others or share what sometimes feels like a failure. We are rarely told what...
Divorce is rarely if ever, an easy experience, or conversation. Just mentioning it can bring up a lot of discomfort, pain, memories, and opinions from those around us or even in ourselves. So it’s not surprising that when a divorce may be on the horizon or is our...
We all expect to have a lot of changes in our lives when we identify as teenagers and young adults. For some reason we expect the rest of our lives to have much more stability, but in actuality the old saying “change is the only constant in life” is true. ...