So you have figured out that you may not be as straight as you thought you were. Now what? Do you separate and divorce? Do you decide to live in a mixed-orientation marriage, when one partner is straight and the other is not? Or do you try to have your needs met and...
The shooting at Club Q happened in Colorado Springs this past weekend. I woke up on Sunday morning with the horror of the news. Saddened that another senseless murder has hit our community again. I laid in my wife's arms and cried. Cried that it is this...
https://youtu.be/q99RzSovgA8 Survival Plan For The Holidays! Join Barb Rowlandson and I as we give survival tips for navigating the holidays when you are coming out and/or getting divorced!Reach out to Barb if you would like to a hand-out for the event....
https://youtu.be/x2x7a-r4tds Join coming out coach Anne-Marie Zanzal and Tonda McKay for their next Facebook Live event as they talk about how to approach coming out to children of all ages. Anne-Marie Zanzal is a coming out coach, chaplain, bereavement counselor,...
One of the biggest fears we have when considering divorce is the effect it will have on our kids. It is a valid concern. But so often we get stuck in all the negative that we’ve heard about kids with divorced parents that we don’t consider all the ways in which a...
Divorce is often an off limit topic, yet it’s also very common, so let’s get real and actually talk about it. When we do talk about it, it’s often vague or unemotional, not wanting to burden others or share what sometimes feels like a failure. We are rarely told what...
Divorce is rarely if ever, an easy experience, or conversation. Just mentioning it can bring up a lot of discomfort, pain, memories, and opinions from those around us or even in ourselves. So it’s not surprising that when a divorce may be on the horizon or is our...
Here it comes again. Fathers Day. What I remember most from my childhood moments with my father was his incredible strength. He had huge biceps and used to delight in picking me and my step-sister up with one finger. We would hold onto his hand and he would lift us up...
It’s not a question a lot of women married to men think they’ll have to answer. Not many would expect to be surprised by new feelings for other women or to have to acknowledge an awakening recognition of something that might’ve been there all along. Chances are,...
I had a major life transition - actually several - over the past four years. These include a divorce from my spouse of twenty-seven years; coming out as a lesbian at fifty; leaving a long held job; moving from my hometown (twice); starting a new life in ...
My partner, Tonda McKay, is a professional photographer and I went with her to a shoot as her assistant. I had the opportunity to roam around the new Charlotte-Mecklenburg Library in Charlotte, North Carolina. This is a truly visually pleasing gem of a...
It was February and two months before I had left the home I shared with my husband of 27 years. I had made arrangements to house-sit to save some money and to have a place that I could call my own for a couple of months before I would make a decision about my...