https://youtu.be/nzcWq2TbOGc Carla Mullins is an adjunct instructor, mental health therapist, mother, wife, extreme introvert, friend of cats, lifelong pacific northwesterner, and increasingly fearless lesbian poet. Check out Carla's first published poem here:...
https://youtu.be/1hnwOnp5lr8 Mother of two kids, a 21 year old transgender daughter, cisgender daughter. Writer, online content strategist and creator. From Barbara: If folks would like to follow my adventures in growing flowers they can connect with Queen Bee Flower...
https://youtu.be/QdxSGDl1kCg Anne-Marie and Tonda share more about their love story, and how they created their wonderful life together as a lesbian couple after Anne-Marie came out later in life.
Everything seems overwhelming when we are first coming out. We are discovering so much about ourselves and how we fit into the world. At times it’s a very lonely journey. We don’t know if people will understand or if they will think we’ve made it up or are going...
By Elizabeth M., age 47 Elizabeth and I are good friends and she regaled me late summer with her tales of the lesbian dating scene. I asked her to write this piece for my blog. Dating is a numbers game and being open to all different types of women can be game...
We’ve all heard the joke. What does a lesbian bring with her on the second date? A U-Haul truck. The picture accompanying this article is a play on this joke. My wife and I were only moving some furniture and wanted to make our queer friends...
Internalized Homophobia is when LGBTQIA+ people listen to negative messages about being gay – and believe them. While society has come a long way in accepting some members of the LGBTQIA+ family, negative messages about being not straight still persist. We...
By Tonda Mckay I have been out forever and five years ago I began dating a newly out woman. We were both in our early fifties. We all know there are a million ways to come out and all ages at which to take that first step. I tried one straight relationship...
All faith traditions have some version of this belief/value: We should love God, our neighbor, and ourselves. Many people who describe themselves as spiritual also believe some version of this as well. Remember the "golden rule?" Treat others as you...
When we have our first lesbian relationship or not, navigating a queer relationship is very similar to any relationship. We can’t expect it to be always magical because we have partnered with the same sex. It can feel that way, especially in the beginning, but it...
Setting healthy boundaries and expectations is difficult for most people. Especially for those of us coming out later in life, it can be tricky to learn and more difficult to maintain. Many of us grew up in chaotic homes where we weren’t taught clear boundaries and...
Divorce is always a difficult topic and often so taboo we don’t know how to act when the topic is brought up, let alone when someone close to us is going through it. We don’t know what to say or how to support them and so often we end up feeling awkward and useless or...