Eight Myths We Need to Let Go of About The Lesbian Community When you came out did you realize that you may have been ill-informed about the lesbian community? That there are a lot of myths created by a heteronormative society that are simply not true? So if you are...
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Six Entirely Selfish & Completely Valid Reasons You Should Come to Wing Women Weekend
Wing Women Weekend happens on Oct 16-20th in Provincetown, MA, during that community's annual Women's Week. For those who aren't in the know yet, Provincetown is, like, probably the gayest small town in America, and Women's Week is basically lesbian Mecca. Every year...
Ten Steps to Getting Through The Messy Messy Middle When Coming Out Later in Life
Coming out and divorce can be two of the most challenging experiences a person can go through. They often involve significant life changes, uncertainty, and emotional upheaval. I get it! My messy middle of coming out later in life, navigating my first...
Lesbian U-Hauling…is it a real thing?
One of the many things my clients ask me about, especially if they are coupled, is about the infamous lesbian "U-Haul" phenomenon. If you’re not familiar, the term refers to the stereotype that lesbians tend to move in together quickly after starting a romantic...
Should You Open Up Your Marriage?
So you have figured out that you may not be as straight as you thought you were. Now what? Do you separate and divorce? Do you decide to live in a mixed-orientation marriage, when one partner is straight and the other is not? Or do you try to have your needs met and...
Maybe I Am Not Straight: Navigating the Fear of Late-Life LGBTQ+ Identity
The author and her wife Tonda McKay. Anne-Marie came out at 52 and Tonda came out at 22. So, you're here, reading this, because maybe, just maybe, you're starting to question something fundamental about yourself. Maybe you've been feeling this way for a while, but...
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Coming Out & Beyond: LGBTQIA+ Stories Season 6 Episode 6 Reframing Guilt & Shame Associated with Coming Out Later in Life
https://youtu.be/XmuKzmvK_9w 🌈 Welcome to another episode of "Coming Out & Beyond: LGBTQIA+ Stories"!Host Anne-Marie Zanzal invites fellow later-in-lifer Barbara Rowlandson back to the podcast to talk about everyone's favorite topic 🙄, guilt and shame! Guilt and...

Coming Out & Beyond: LGBTQIA+ Stories | Season 6 Episode 5 | Finding Queer Community
https://youtu.be/JJwM1Ue-7ZQ 🌈 Welcome to another episode of "Coming Out & Beyond: LGBTQIA+ Stories"!In this episode, host Anne-Marie Zanzal and fellow coming-out coach, Barbara Rowlandson, talk about leaning into queer community during challenging times. Informed...

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Tips for Having a Healthy First Lesbian Relationship
When we have our first lesbian relationship or not, navigating a queer relationship is very similar to any relationship. We can’t expect it to be always magical because we have partnered with the same sex. It can feel that way, especially in the beginning, but it...
What Does it Mean to Change Your Life Midlife?
We all expect to have a lot of changes in our lives when we identify as teenagers and young adults. For some reason we expect the rest of our lives to have much more stability, but in actuality the old saying “change is the only constant in life” is true. ...
Are you Ever Done Coming Out?
Coming out is such a big deal for most of us that once we decide we want to live authentically and open that part of ourselves to others, we look most forward to having it over and done with so we can move on with our lives and beyond the stress of sharing something...
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I’m Glad You’re An Ally, but Please Don’t Kiss Me On The Lips By Barb Rowlandson
By Barb Rowlandson In 2017, I joined the Alphabet Mafia, and let me tell you: flipping from the straight world into the Queer world is WILD. Up until my gay reckoning, I'd been with the same man for 24 years. My straight life went pretty much like this: Wake up Take...
Five Things I Wish I Knew Before Coming Out 5. Joy
https://youtu.be/QpTJuJG9_W8 Anne-Marie Zanzal and Barb Rowlandson as we discuss finding JOY!!!! in the coming out journey. In the beginning we know it feels very difficult to find joy in the process. We promise you it is there and you will find it. Want to find more...
Five Things I Wish I Knew Before Coming Out 4. Grief
https://youtu.be/abwzxRkd2Fo Join Anne-Marie Zanzal and Barb Rowlandson as we discuss grief In the coming out journey. In the beginning we know it feels very difficult and we sometimes grieve many things. Grief is our intellectual, spiritual, emotional and spiritual...
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