Story time: Nearly two years ago, I ended an engagement with a woman who I loved very much. While she is in many ways a good human being, our lifestyles and families were just waaaay too different. The decision to end things was a painful one. I know, I know, ending...
Have you ever found yourself asking that question of the person you're dating? Situationships can be very confusing and hard on the heart. One minute, you're enjoying time together, relaxed, and having fun. The next minute, it seems like she doesn't have the time of...
Are you questioning your sexual orientation? Sometimes, the signs that we're not straight can be subtle or unexpected. In this blog post, we'll delve deeper into some common indicators that might suggest you're on a different path. As women, we might feel like we have...
This Friday, October 11, 2024, is National Coming Out Day. As a coming out coach I get a lot of questions about this day. If you don’t know the history of this day here is a great place to start. It’s Ok to Come Out When You Are Ready, It Doesn’t Have to Be...
The first time I went to Provincetown as a gay person was when I was with my now-wife Tonda McKay. I am from the Northeast and knew all about this charming little seaside town at the very tip of Cape Cod in Massachusetts. Provincetown—lovingly known as Ptown—is a...
Hi. I am Robin Sesan. A late 60ish cis-gender woman, white, Jewish, and later in life lesbian. I am also a psychologist, a couples’ therapist, an artist, a mother to two adult children, and a doting cat mom to Buffy. But these labels, though true, barely scratch the...
https://youtu.be/DzgXvkOno2k : 👣A Path to Spiritual Healing🏳️🌈 The Role of Affirming Spiritual Direction for the LGBTQIA+ Community | Season 6 Episode 8 🌈 This week on "Coming Out & Beyond: LGBTQIA+ Stories" host Anne-Marie Zanzal spends some time in conversation...
https://youtu.be/1JN_-kMS4yw ➡️Reframing Guilt & Shame Part 2: A New Perspective | Season 6 Episode 7🌈 Welcome to another episode of "Coming Out & Beyond: LGBTQIA+ Stories"!Host Anne-Marie Zanzal and fellow later-in-lifer Barbara Rowlandson are back this...
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Everything seems overwhelming when we are first coming out. We are discovering so much about ourselves and how we fit into the world. At times it’s a very lonely journey. We don’t know if people will understand or if they will think we’ve made it up or are going...
Internalized Homophobia is when LGBTQIA+ people listen to negative messages about being gay – and believe them. While society has come a long way in accepting some members of the LGBTQIA+ family, negative messages about being not straight still persist. We...
By Tonda Mckay I have been out forever and five years ago I began dating a newly out woman. We were both in our early fifties. We all know there are a million ways to come out and all ages at which to take that first step. I tried one straight relationship...
Story time: Nearly two years ago, I ended an engagement with a woman who I loved very much. While she is in many ways a good human being, our lifestyles and families were just waaaay too different. The decision to end things was a painful one. I know, I know, ending...
https://youtu.be/9N2TcbRyaFI Join me, Anne-Marie Zanzal, and Tonda McKay as we discuss how to find peace as we navigate the choppy waters of divorce. Divorce is a turbulent time for most, with heightened feelings, triggers, anger, sadness and radical change for all...
Divorce is always a difficult topic and often so taboo we don’t know how to act when the topic is brought up, let alone when someone close to us is going through it. We don’t know what to say or how to support them and so often we end up feeling awkward and useless or...
One of the biggest fears we have when considering divorce is the effect it will have on our kids. It is a valid concern. But so often we get stuck in all the negative that we’ve heard about kids with divorced parents that we don’t consider all the ways in which a...
Divorce is often an off limit topic, yet it’s also very common, so let’s get real and actually talk about it. When we do talk about it, it’s often vague or unemotional, not wanting to burden others or share what sometimes feels like a failure. We are rarely told what...
Divorce is rarely if ever, an easy experience, or conversation. Just mentioning it can bring up a lot of discomfort, pain, memories, and opinions from those around us or even in ourselves. So it’s not surprising that when a divorce may be on the horizon or is our...
Coming out and divorce can be two of the most challenging experiences a person can go through. They often involve significant life changes, uncertainty, and emotional upheaval. I get it! My messy middle of coming out later in life, navigating my first...
Updated: January 2025 I will never forget my first forays into a lesbian relationship. I felt like a light switch was turned on and I now understood something that I heard others talk about, but I never really comprehended. I thought passion and romance were just a...
by Barb Rowlandson So, you've figured out you're not as straight as you previously thought you were. Congrats! Though it might seem a little bit scary, you’re about to embark on a remarkable journey. The ranks of late-in-life lesbians are ever-increasing. Though you...
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