This Friday, October 11, 2024, is National Coming Out Day. As a coming out coach I get a lot of questions about this day. If you don’t know the history of this day here is a great place to start. It’s Ok to Come Out When You Are Ready, It Doesn’t Have to Be...
The first time I went to Provincetown as a gay person was when I was with my now-wife Tonda McKay. I am from the Northeast and knew all about this charming little seaside town at the very tip of Cape Cod in Massachusetts. Provincetown—lovingly known as Ptown—is a...
Hi. I am Robin Sesan. A late 60ish cis-gender woman, white, Jewish, and later in life lesbian. I am also a psychologist, a couples’ therapist, an artist, a mother to two adult children, and a doting cat mom to Buffy. But these labels, though true, barely scratch the...
Eight Myths We Need to Let Go of About The Lesbian Community When you came out did you realize that you may have been ill-informed about the lesbian community? That there are a lot of myths created by a heteronormative society that are simply not true? So if you are...
Wing Women Weekend happens on Oct 16-20th in Provincetown, MA, during that community's annual Women's Week. For those who aren't in the know yet, Provincetown is, like, probably the gayest small town in America, and Women's Week is basically lesbian Mecca. Every year...
Coming out and divorce can be two of the most challenging experiences a person can go through. They often involve significant life changes, uncertainty, and emotional upheaval. I get it! My messy middle of coming out later in life, navigating my first...
https://youtu.be/KgVeE1BU7SQ Oh yes! Oh no! It's the holiday season once again! Individuals in the LGBTQIA+ community experience unique stressors during the holiday season. Queer/coming out coaches Anne-Marie Zanzal and Barbara Rowlandson have a lively discussion...
https://youtu.be/cFuQcDN-CAk What does it mean to hide? How does hiding effect us and the people around us? This week's podcast could be considered an expert on hiding. Author Karen Solt, a lesbian, made her career in the United States navy which spanned over the...
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Everything seems overwhelming when we are first coming out. We are discovering so much about ourselves and how we fit into the world. At times it’s a very lonely journey. We don’t know if people will understand or if they will think we’ve made it up or are going...
Internalized Homophobia is when LGBTQIA+ people listen to negative messages about being gay – and believe them. While society has come a long way in accepting some members of the LGBTQIA+ family, negative messages about being not straight still persist. We...
By Tonda Mckay I have been out forever and five years ago I began dating a newly out woman. We were both in our early fifties. We all know there are a million ways to come out and all ages at which to take that first step. I tried one straight relationship...
Story time: Nearly two years ago, I ended an engagement with a woman who I loved very much. While she is in many ways a good human being, our lifestyles and families were just waaaay too different. The decision to end things was a painful one. I know, I know, ending...
https://youtu.be/9N2TcbRyaFI Join me, Anne-Marie Zanzal, and Tonda McKay as we discuss how to find peace as we navigate the choppy waters of divorce. Divorce is a turbulent time for most, with heightened feelings, triggers, anger, sadness and radical change for all...
Divorce is always a difficult topic and often so taboo we don’t know how to act when the topic is brought up, let alone when someone close to us is going through it. We don’t know what to say or how to support them and so often we end up feeling awkward and useless or...
One of the biggest fears we have when considering divorce is the effect it will have on our kids. It is a valid concern. But so often we get stuck in all the negative that we’ve heard about kids with divorced parents that we don’t consider all the ways in which a...
Divorce is often an off limit topic, yet it’s also very common, so let’s get real and actually talk about it. When we do talk about it, it’s often vague or unemotional, not wanting to burden others or share what sometimes feels like a failure. We are rarely told what...
Divorce is rarely if ever, an easy experience, or conversation. Just mentioning it can bring up a lot of discomfort, pain, memories, and opinions from those around us or even in ourselves. So it’s not surprising that when a divorce may be on the horizon or is our...
by Barb Rowlandson So, you've figured out you're not as straight as you previously thought you were. Congrats! Though it might seem a little bit scary, you’re about to embark on a remarkable journey. The ranks of late-in-life lesbians are ever-increasing. Though you...
By Barb Rowlandson In 2017, I joined the Alphabet Mafia, and let me tell you: flipping from the straight world into the Queer world is WILD. Up until my gay reckoning, I'd been with the same man for 24 years. My straight life went pretty much like this: Wake up Take...
https://youtu.be/QpTJuJG9_W8 Anne-Marie Zanzal and Barb Rowlandson as we discuss finding JOY!!!! in the coming out journey. In the beginning we know it feels very difficult to find joy in the process. We promise you it is there and you will find it. Want to find more...
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